As most of you know, today is Veterans Day, a day in which America honors those who have served in our wars. I am a granddaughter of two WWII vents and while one sat behind a desk, the other fought in the Pacific and needless to say saw things he would have rather forgotten. What I want to highlight today is not war itself, but stories.
I have never asked my mom’s father about the war. For some reason I felt that it was insulting. War is so brutal, why should I ask them to talk about it? My father’s father died before my parents were even married, so needless to say, before I was born. The stories I have heard about him were never related to the war, but instead what a great father he was in the post-war years. I feel like I have missed out on something – I have missed out on great opportunities to hear their experiences, which are a part of history. I want to encourage any of you out there who have relatives who feel comfortable sharing their stories – some may not – and hear what they have to say! Record it! Write about it! Do something to preserve their personal history!
Yesterday, Patrick and I went to the county clerk to pick up our marriage license! Can you believe that it costs $60 to get one of these things? I guess that may be one of the smallest expenses we’ll pay though. We have decided that we are going to have a friend perform the ceremony (Yay for Universal Life Church!), which isn’t the ideal for many of my family members, but at least I’m settling on having a real wedding and they can just be thankful that the event is taking place, because I can’t tell you how often the thought of having a small court house wedding has crossed my mind…one moment I am incredibly selfish, thinking, “It’s my wedding for god’s sake! It’s about us!” but then the thought of disappointing my family and friends crosses my mind…it may be the last time I get to see some of my family due to age and health issues. We are doing a lot of stuff that is purely us, so I think that our fine line between selfishness and pleasing others is being walked fairly well. Oh my! Only 33 days to go!!